Hey, it's Luca and welcome to the Lucas Savati podcast. So, let me tell you something that happened this morning. I woke up feeling a bit flat. You know, just one of those mornings where you're not really feeling it. I've been working a lot lately. I've been taking steps, doing things, things that matter. I've been feeling energized and putting all that energy to work. But today the battery was a bit flat. I felt empty. And so at some point I was looking at a blank screen and I just thought, man, I just need to get out. And I actually did something about it. I got dressed. I put my shoes on. I put my coat on. I decided I'm going out anywhere. And as I was standing there at the front door with my coat on, ready to leave, another thought came in. Okay, but where am I going? And so I took my coat off again. I hung it up, shoes off. And while I was doing that, I thought, "No, no, no. I want to get out." And so I changed back into my gym wear. I made my sports streak. And then gym really on a Sunday probably crowded. And there I am standing in the hallway again, shoes in my hand, still wanting to go out and still not going anywhere. And the longer I stood there, the more frustrated I got with myself because nothing was actually wrong. I mean, I had time, I had energy, and yet I wasn't leading. And so, that's when it became clear this wasn't about motivation. It wasn't about discipline. It was something else. And that's why I wanted to have this conversation with you. Because these moments can look like laziness or boredom or a lack of interest. But most of the time they are overwhelmed in the skies. You know you want to move but you haven't decided where yet. So every option stays open and when everything stays open actually happens. You start negotiating with yourself. Maybe a walk, maybe not. Maybe just coffee. But where? Every option almost works, but none of them really lands. And the more you think, the harder choosing becomes. Not because the decision is big, but because you're trying to make the decision inside the moment. Now, this shows up in different ways. Sometimes you're low on energy, like I was, and choosing feels heavy. So postponing feels easier. And sometimes you're actually having energy, ideas, curiosity, momentum. You're not tired at all. You're just open. Too open. Different feeling, same results. You stay where you are. And I noticed this not just in myself, but also in other people. Sometimes it's a really small decision, going out for coffee or for a walk. And yet in these moments the decision suddenly feels huge. We circle back and forth in our head instead of just picking something and going with it. What often makes it harder is when people around us that mean well start saying things like, "Oh no, you decide. You know, you do what feels right." But when you're already stuck, that openness adds pressure. You're not just choosing an activity anymore. You're trying to choose the right feeling. And in that state, thinking through pros and cons doesn't help. At least it doesn't for me. It pulls me straight into overthinking. Time passes. And later, the regret isn't about what I did or didn't do. It's about how long I stayed stuck trying to decide. And this is the interesting part. The problem isn't that you can't decide. It's that you're letting the moment decide for you. And the moment never decides in your favor. It decides that you feel stuck, frustrated, like the days passing without you in it. Because moments create pressure. And when no decision is made in advance, the pressure builds, hesitation turns into overthinking. Overthinking turns into overwhelm. And that comes with a cost. Time drains away. Minutes turn into hours. And before you know it, the day is basically over. And something else happens as well. Self-rust takes a small hit because you told yourself you wanted to go out, you wanted to do something, but then you didn't. And that frustration that you feel, that's not about the activity. It's about the pattern. It's thinking instead of choosing. It's negotiating instead of committing. And that's where selfrust starts to erode. Not because you made a wrong choice, but because you keep telling yourself you'll do something and then you don't. So, no, I'm not saying that you should plan everything ahead in advance. And I'm also not saying that you should stop being spontaneous. This is about timing. Freedom is a beautiful thing. But too much freedom left to the last moment is often what keeps us stuck. Freedom isn't lost because we decide something ahead of time. Freedom is lost when the decision comes too late. Moments aren't good in carrying responsibility. Moments are short. They're noisy. They pull you in 10 different directions at once. So what looks like indecision is often just a choice made too late. Now I know I'm not good in deciding in the moment especially when it comes to rest connection or getting out of the house. So instead of blaming myself for that I do something else. Like here's what I do. I pick one recurring moment in the week. For me that's Monday. Monday afternoon. Nothing magical or special about Monday. It just works for me. So, every Monday afternoon, I block about 10 to 15 minutes to send five people in my contacts a message. Things like, "Hey, do you want to go grab a coffee this week?" or "Do you feel like going for a walk sometime?" or "How about lunch next week?" That's it. Now, out of five people, usually three or four reply within that 15 minutes space and the rest I'll follow up on later. And I try to make plans with those people. I plan them in the next one or two weeks. So, I put them in my calendar. And here's what changes for me. When that day comes, no matter how I feel, I don't have to negotiate with myself anymore. I already chose the work is already done. And almost every time when I come back from an appointment, I never regret going. I do regret the hours that I stood standing in the hallway with my shoes in my hand negotiating with myself. So when I catch myself hesitating, even if I have something planned already, I just do the thing I originally chose to do. And then I notice how it feels, not in a moment, but after. Because one thing is almost always true. Something is different. And it's because I chose movement over stuckness. All right, that's it for this episode. Thank you so much for hanging out with me. I hope that this sparked some ideas for you to try. And if this episode made you think of somebody that you care about, maybe a friend, a partner, a family member, feel free to share this with them. All right, I'm Luca. Thank you so much for being here, and I look forward to seeing you in our next conversation.